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Tingly Mind is an online publication that offers empowering life and relationship advice. Our content is geared towards women in general and heterosexual women in particular.

After all, regardless of gender, we serve the people who value security and stability in life. If you want to become a solid individual with healthy, meaningful relationships, you’re at the right place.

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I’m glad I knew though.

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A few years back, I matched with a guy on a dating app.

We chatted back and forth, and it was pleasant. Though, when it was time to schedule a date, it didn’t go quite smoothly. We both had to take rain checks due to different reasons. We ended up never meeting, and the communication fizzled out.

Sometime later, he contacted me out of the blue. We talked and he asked to meet me again. I was single, so I thought “Why not?” And it finally happened.

We met for a drink at a bar after work. At that time…


They don’t keep score.

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I had a hard time understanding what a healthy relationship looks like. I came from a background where my dad was abusive and cheated a lot, and my mother doesn’t bother to communicate her problems to anyone. She keeps it to herself.

All I saw during my childhood were constant fights and just two people who were stuck in a situation they couldn’t get out of because they have my brother and me.

You see it everywhere: Instagram, TikTok, even youtube couples who seem to be “happy all the time.” If you look at the comments, you’ll find lots of…


Attention and care go a long way.

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We all know it by now: modern dating is no sunshine and rainbows. But, it’s even more nerve-racking for people with anxiety or an anxious attachment style.

“An anxiously-attached person doesn’t trust that love is safe. They fear that their partner will leave them at any minute and their needs for intimacy won’t be met. As a result, they’re hyper sensitive to any cues of distance — emotional and physical — and constantly seek security and reassurance.” (Source)

I was one of them.

For a long time, I dated people who always seemed too cool for real emotions and made…


Shift the admiration to yourself.

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Seven years ago, I met the love of my life.

At least, back then, I believed he was the one who’d be perfect for me.

I had just come back to Vienna after spending two semesters in Paris. Meeting my old friends, enjoying the Viennese summer, and relishing the city with all its beautiful vibes gave me the best feeling, and I was willing to meet someone new.

One evening, I was meeting friends at a bar. We were sitting outside, watching a soccer game and drinking beer. Then a friend of one of my fellow students came by and…


And have real, natural pleasure.

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A thought just crossed my mind: you should go on a solo trip and bring a vibrator with you.

Ok. I’m not actually writing about sex in this article. But I do want to talk about giving yourself pleasure and making yourself happy — in every way possible.

I learned that lesson after hitting rock bottom a few years ago. I went to therapy. I took myself out on dates. I participated in fun, wholesome group activities.

And, well, I went on a solo trip. No, there wasn’t any vibrator in my suitcase; I was too busy trying to get…


Hint: Having sex too soon is not why you don’t end up together.

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One of the most common questions I get from my lady friends, as their trusted relationship writer and confidant, is:

When should I have sex with him?”

They’re worried they might be having sex too soon and the guy will pull away after sex.

In many cases, they’ve already had sex and the guy has already pulled away, and now they’re left with regrets and disappointments. They’re convinced that if they had waited it out, the guy would’ve pursued them more and wanted a relationship with them.

I look at my own dating life and definitely remember having this thought…


Be brutally honest with yourself.

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Have you got that one moment where you could feel your anxiety level goes up and you don’t know what to do? If you think you were about to go crazy and had a major breakdown, I can assure you that you aren’t alone.

I’m not saying that feeling is normal, but even the most secure woman feels it once in a while.

In 2019, I was in this constant state of being great one day and feeling like everything falls apart the next day. …


Surprising lessons learned from the one who got away

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All great love stories start and end in Bali.

I know, because I’ve been there.

I was touring the island before the great pandemic of 2020 started.

A colleague of mine joined me from the U.S. and arrived on Valentine’s Day so we could both sight-see Bali together. On the same flight as my colleague was the woman whom I would soon get to know and start planning a life with.

When I met her, I discovered we had even more similarities with each other. Both having been married and divorced, both from the East and living in the West…


#2. You Are Always Defensive.

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For many years, I couldn’t understand why my relationship didn’t last long. Until I realized there was something in me that I had to change.

My trust issues did sabotage my past relationship. Not the proudest moment in my life, I know.

“A toxic relationship occurs when one or both people are prioritizing love over the three core components of a healthy relationship: respect, trust, and affection.” — Mark Manson.

Have you ever stopped for a second and think, maybe you are the one who’s toxic in the relationship? …

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